Nowadays, there are FAR too many people repeating bad behavior, habits, and other generational trauma that they have gained from family.
It’s even gone so far to say that they have a generational curse and even when I was doing research of what others were talking about how to get rid of generational curses, there was a lot of prayers and meditations that claim to get rid of these curses.
Look, I’m going to keep it real here…
No amount of praying or manifesting is going to get rid of generational curses.
There’s no such thing….
I don’t mind saying generational trauma because at least with trauma, you can have practical spiritual practices that can help you start the process of generational healing.
Have you realized how much we are like our parents in some way, shape, or form?
I know some people don’t want to admit to this, especially if you have a severed relationship with one or both of your parents and you might have even been triggered by the thought of this.
But, keep reading this post because I’m going to help you get to the bottom of what generational trauma is.
In my own words, generational trauma is trauma that has been passed down for centuries in the family. You may have heard people coming from a long lineage of alcoholics, drug users, or other types of addicts.
However, generational trauma doesn’t have to be that extreme.
For example, you may have come from a family where NO ONE was allowed to say how they feel or speak their mind. Thus, this behavior passes on to you, at some point, and you find yourself very reserved and not expressive.
This can also result into you not being able to learn emotional regulation or emotional intelligence because you weren’t able to express yourself in the family and had to keep everything “hush hush”.
You see, with this example, how easy it is to pass habits and behaviors down the lineage?
Now, how to STOP passing down generational trauma is the part you will have to begin making.
Unfortunately, we can’t do much when we’re children under our parent’s rules, but it is ALL of our responsibility to heal our sh*t when we are older.
People who want to stay the same way they always had and want to put the blame on other people are just people who want to avoid any kind of responsibility with their own lives.
And I don’t WANT you to be like those other people. I want you to strive and grow into your authentic self.
So, we have to start somewhere when it comes to healing generational trauma.
How do we do this?
Here are some ways to begin generational healing.
I know I’ve talked about listening to your intuition A LOT in my content and here’s why it’s so important.
Let’s use religion for an example: when people go to church and they listen and follow the pastor’s teachings, you aren’t listening to your own intuition to create the beliefs that you truly follow.
The issue with this is that if you have a pastor, for example, tell you that “money is the root of all evil” you are, not only following what the pastor believes, but you are taking on as your own belief system. Thus, you find yourself in situations like never having enough money, having money go out as quickly as it came in, running in constant financial struggles, etc.
All because you followed what somebody else said and not your own intuition.
This is why family members do the same stupid sh*t years down the lineage because no one was taught to trust their intuition.
I get it, people tend to not trust their intuition because they don’t trust themselves enough to make the right decision and therefore, have to go through someone else.
I mean, you see this so often even in children who take on paths that their parent’s encourage them to go down when that’s not really what they want for themselves.
And if the child is TRULY inspired by what their parent’s do, they would have questions, get curious, and what to learn more about it naturally on their own.
Why intuition development is so important in healing generational trauma is because you are following what your soul/Higher Self truly wants for you in this world.
It will get uncomfortable, at times, to go against the grain of what others think, but my best advice for this is this:
If you don’t want their life, don’t take their advice.
At the end of your life, when you are on your deathbed, are you truly going to be happy with the decisions that your family say you should be doing?
I bet you that most of them won’t even be alive by the time you are older, so what’s going to happen when mommy and daddy are gone and you are left behind with no one telling you how to think, behave, or do with your life?
Twiddle your thumbs?
Wait for someone else to tell you what to do at 60, 70, 80 years old?
Again, you deal with your decisions at the end of your lifetime. Not your parents, not your pastor, not your friends, no one.
Do yourself a favor and check out my blog posts on developing intuition, connecting to your Higher Self, and other spiritual posts in the spiritual category of my website.
These posts will help you learn intuition development and set you up on the right path.
Ah yes, the topic that will p*ss people off the most.
Here’s the thing with reflections: everything we go through in life, from trauma to traumatic events is a reflection of what we are missing within ourself.
The issue is that people will look at the things they go through, especially with generational trauma, as “bad” when in the universal laws, nothing is fully good and nothing is fully bad. These are just social constructs of what we humans deem it as to keep social order in this world.
Otherwise, the world could end up like The Purge.
Anyways, back to the topic of reflections.
With reflections, people around you are just writing out a script of how you feel about yourself.
For example: if you are a child that desperately tries to please your family and needs the attentions from them, that could be a reflection of you not feeling worthy or valued as who you are.
You can sit there and argue with me that, “Carol, can’t your parent’s just be proud of you?”
Sure, yes; however, feeling truly proud comes from within. Not from others.
Otherwise, if you don’t feel truly proud of what you are doing and who you are, your parents may be proud of you for a little bit, but then the next thing you know, they are nitpicking and scrutinizing you the next time you converse with them.
That example right there is a reflection. Your job in these types of situations is to look at the reflection and to look deeper into why things like that are happening to you, especially if it’s been going on for a long time and it’s happened on more than one occasion in one or more different areas of your life.
Generational trauma is often passed down because people in the family either don’t learn the lessons out of the reflections and everyone is basically reflecting back the same trauma that they are experiencing. It’s like seeing each other as a mirror and doing the exact same thing that the mirror is reflecting.
The best way to not pass down generational trauma is to look at the reflections and find the root cause of why you are getting what is being reflected towards you.
What about the family do you think is the root cause of why the same issue keeps persisting?
Do you come from a family of low self-worth?
Do you come from a family that never expressed love towards others or themselves?
Get crystal clear on the reflections and be the first to start generational healing by healing how you feel about yourself FIRST.
Be the mirror that begins reflects healing.
Generational trauma begins when we are a child.
In fact, from when we are born to around the age of seven, we are a walking sponge that takes on EVERYTHING around us.
Seriously, you are such a sensitive, pure soul when you are a child.
The concept around inner child work is to give yourself the things that you didn’t get from childhood.
So just like the last topic on reflections, if you begin inner child healing, you are tackling the root cause that can cause those reflections in the first place.
Look back at your childhood and see what it is your parents didn’t give you enough of.
As someone who performs reiki, I will find that things like body aliments can also be the cause of some childhood trauma and it’s important to talk through to this inner child and give them what your parents lacked.
This will take work, of course.
Some of the ways people do inner child work is through journaling and meditation, but sometimes it can be the inspired action, like doing all the things you weren’t able to do as a child.
It will all depend on what resonates with you, which is why I say to people that developing your intuition and connecting to your Higher Self is important.
But for now, ask yourself what is it that you wished you received as a child?
If it’s physical, inspired action, start with that.
If it’s emotional, start parenting yourself the way you wish you were parented.
By doing this, you will, not only stop generational trauma in its tracks, but also start implementing better ways to parent if you are someone that plans to have children in the future.
What pattern have you noticed in your family? What are you doing to begin generational healing? Comment in the comment section below!
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