Ever since I’ve found out I was pregnant with our first born, I knew one of the biggest challenges, especially in my spiritual growth, would be learning how to really set boundaries in this new phase of my life.
This was including me, my baby, and protecting the space of our growing family.
I have heard far too many stories of people letting family and others walk all over them: from making rude comments to in-laws barging into your home and wanting to see the baby.
I knew that wasn’t going to fly with me, especially when I was already someone who was a pretty private person as is. I knew as a mom, I couldn’t let that kind of behavior slide, especially not in front of my child.
I didn’t want my child to not advocate for themselves or allow others to walk all over them.
Therefore, I had to really learn the concept of consistency, follow through, and stronger boundaries.
And in doing this, I have learned so much on how boundaries had really changed my spiritual growth. It really unlocked a lot of parts of me that I have learned to carry over into my work, business, relationships, and most importantly, motherhood.
No matter what you are going through in life, I really wanted to share with you my experience and raw truth on how boundaries changed my spiritual growth in hopes that it resonates with you and you can find the courage to do the same for yourself!
Now, I’m not religious whatsoever…
But I have heard from far too many people who practice religious how we need to “give to each other” and “that’s what God would want” and guess what?
It’s f*cking laughable.
Over-giving yourself doesn’t do sh*t for you and it doesn’t make you holy in any way, shape, or form.
Over-giving without taking care of yourself is like giving someone a ride to the airport without gas in your car.
Like, how are you going to make that work for either person?
It’s unfortunate that people brainwash each other thinking this way, especially in a world where mental health issues is on the rise. Over-giving does nothing, but fill from an empty cup.
You don’t get some freaking metal on how much you can give to others without taking care of your needs first!
I’ve talked about the concept of energy vampires and have challenged my readers how they feel when they leave an interaction?
When you are done hanging around someone, how does it make you feel?
Because here’s the thing: I have found far too many people who will literally just feel like they are obligated to be around certain people, even if they drain their energy.
Why would you want to waste your precious time and energy around those who just want to be a hassle?
Oh, you’re offend?
Tough sh*t…
It’s almost like people have free-will to live a life that they please.
Not to please those that are upset…
I think life’s too short to be f*cking miserable. Setting boundaries is, not only going to protect you mentally and spiritually, but you’re going to find that you’ll actually have the energy to do more things in your personal life.
Ah yes… the part that many people like to avoid.
Let me just say that I totally get that when it comes to learning and setting boundaries, it WILL be uncomfortable. If this is something new to you, of course you’ll going to feel discomfort when it comes to stepping into the unknown.
It’s NEW and it’s something you aren’t used to yet.
But here’s the thing: do you learn more by being comfortable or do you learn more by being uncomfortable?
Because it’s no secret we remember the uncomfortable parts of an event; however, you can use this to your advantage.
You can use this feeling and use it to aid into your spiritual healing
Example: turning frustration in creativity or turning anger in passion.
I’ve wrote a little about this in a separate blog post that talks about the art of transmutation and how you can use this power to create something beautiful in your life!
Related Post: How I Have Mastered The Art Of Energy Transmutation
Look, people don’t know what’s always best for you. I don’t care WHO they are because they are filtering people’s experiences through the lens of their own experiences.
That’s why I don’t like religion because you are learning religion through a filter of what someone else says and not what you truly believe in.
Learning boundaries is necessary when you need to go inward and figure out what is best for you and the life you want to live.
If you don’t want to be one of those people with regrets on their deathbeds, I would highly advise you start to get really clear on what is best for you, even if it means you have to have stricter boundaries.
This is why so many people struggle with confidence, which I get it. I’ve been there plenty of times. I didn’t gain a higher self-esteem until I truly stepped away from the crowd and found my own path.
Now, I’ve created such a fulfilling life that I wouldn’t have had if I had listened to other people’s comments and opinions.
I really would recommend that if anything, learn to set boundaries so you can better connect with your intuition. It’s your intuition that is going to lead you to creating the best results for you, which can also benefit the people around you ANYWAYS.
Of course, learning boundaries is going to MASSIVELY calm your nervous system.
I mean, who wouldn’t want to live a life of inner peace?
I promise you nothing gets done in fight or flight state. It’s not great for your mental health, it’s definitely NOT great for your spiritual wellness, and it can most certainly affect your physical health.
It’s just not worth damaging yourself to make other people feel comfortable with themselves.
It is SO important for you to operate in a place of peace and calm.
If learning to set boundaries helps you achieve this, I promise you, that type of energy is going to MASSIVELY benefit you, your relationships, and especially your children because they are watching you.
And if you want to raise children to learn and think differently in this world, you HAVE to be the leader and BE the person who does things differently!
Where are you learning to set boundaries? Share in the comment section below!
