How To Feel Confident And Build Self-Esteem

I think we deserve to feel confident and build our self-esteem because these days, we have been misconstrued as being “egotistical” or “vain”. When really, it’s important for our self-care. We, as a society, need more people to have a higher self-esteem so it gives us all permission to be confident in our self.

No, I’m not talking about using your self-esteem to put other people down and feel better about yourself. I’m talking about having the confidence to be your most authentic self and to be the most comfortable in your own skin.

This is mainly for you and your inner well being and not directed towards proving to the people around you.

These are tips that I have used on myself for years and have been used by even the most famous, confident people that you may know.

Table of Contents:

1. Be ok with being alone

There really is a lot of power that comes within you when you aren’t afraid of being alone.

I think a lot of people have the fear of being alone because you are forced to sit with yourself and not be distracted by the people around you. Generally, this is a good sign that there’s something within you that wants you to change, which may take a lot of digging up and self-discovery.

I feel being ok with being alone gives you the power to not give a f*ck about being a part of the crowd. It’s like, if you’re perfectly comfortable being alone, then you have no problems being an outcast or being in your own world or doing the complete opposite of what society wants you to do.

There’s massive potential and strength in the people who chose to be alone.

Chances are, when you get used to being ok with your own company, you start to build that confidence within you because well, you don’t give a sh*t about impressing anyone!

And that is taking back your power!

2. Surround yourself with like-minded people

Some of the most successful people will say that the people we surround our selves with are basically a reflection of us. If we want to program ourselves to succeed, we need to surround our self with like-minded people who have what we want.  

So if you are around people who have a low self-esteem, then chances are, you will end up having a low self-esteem about yourself.

We take on the energy of those around us, so being around someone who has a lot of confidence in their well-being and live as their authentic self can help give you permission to live out your authentic self.

Try and surround yourself with people who have a (healthy) high self-esteem. If you can’t find someone like that, then try reading or watching podcasts or speeches on people who talk about building confidence.

I know that’s where I had to start in order to build my self-esteem. Now my energy has inspired those around me to be confident in their own power.

Either way, both ways will help you absorb the energy of being confidence in yourself.

3. Work on yourself behind the scenes

We all know that knowledge is power and that doesn’t have to mean going to college or getting a higher education.

When you decide to educate yourself in self-development and work on the things you’ve learned, you start to naturally build up your self-esteem. You’ll start learning ways to cope with certain emotions and how the power of your mind works.

There is so much to us that people are unaware that if we end up tapping into this power and working on cultivating it, we would be a lot more comfortable in our skin.

And you don’t have to tell everyone what you’ve been up to. I know that when it comes to improving your life, some people might try to put their input on it and reflect their limiting beliefs onto you. Like I’ve said before, try to surround yourself with like-minded people or people that will support you in your journey.

Work on yourself, even if it’s behind the scenes.

4. Find peace within yourself

When you find peace with who you are and what you are becoming, it’s a very liberating feeling that makes us feel like we are unstoppable.

We get way too hard on ourselves when we don’t look a certain way, when we aren’t acting a certain way, or whatever else people try to shame us for. For the good of you and all of the world, I want you to get rid of that limiting belief and accept and honor yourself.

Honor the you that is your being and accept that you are who you are.

Remember we are multi-dimensional beings and we were born like that. It’s ok to be different at different times and points in your life.

This is absolutely normal.

When you get to the point that you are at peace with who you are, then you’ll start to witness the confidence in you. Once you have your inner peace and keep that intention, everything in your outside world won’t matter because you have already accepted and loved yourself for you.

5. Have your own persona

Speaking of being multi-dimensional beings, here’s a neat trick to help you build your self-esteem.

When it comes to doing hard things or doing things that scare you, try to create a persona, which would be a character you created for yourself who can do all the things you’ve been too afraid of doing.

So Beyoncé, for example, used to have a fear of going up on stage and performing (I know, crazy). She has talked about how she has made a persona that she named Sasha Fierce who she embodies every time she goes up on stage. She imagines herself being Sasha Fierce who can perform very well and grab the attention of her audience easily.

Another example of someone using this same technique is David Goggins, also known as the toughest man on earth who is a retired Navy Seal, ultra marathon runner, cyclist, triathlete, and has set world records. He talks about how whenever he has to go do something that he fears, such as when he first started public speaking, he would embody “Goggins” who is a persona he makes when he has to overcome challenges in his life.

Try to make a persona for yourself when it comes to facing difficulty.

Visualization is important when it comes to making you a persona so imagine yourself being this confidence badass who can overcome anything they are faced with. Ask yourself how you would act, how would you dress, what would you say, what are your mannerisms, etc.

It doesn’t always have to be when faced with difficulties either! You can do this when you need a good pick me up and need an added dose of confidence to your day!

6. Stop worrying about other’s opinions

I know this is easier said than done, but look at it this way.

We all have projected what we believe to be true onto other people. It’s really not even our opinion necessary, but what we think to be true is usually because of how we were raised or taught by our peers.

Society tries to separate us for having a mind of our own and to have a closed mind at that. Deep down, I don’t believe that the things that people think are right, are the things they truly believe is right.

We are a reflection of who we think we are in those around us.

This is universal law.

So if you tend to get a lot of people throwing their opinions at you without you even asking, you are most likely bringing out a side of them that wants to be expressed, but their too afraid to express it.

This is actually a good thing even though in the moment it may not feel good.

Don’t let people’s opinion dim down your light and your self-esteem. When you learn about how the subconscious mind works, you start to look at the people who project themselves into others differently. So when you know this, it gets easier to build your self-esteem because you realize,

“Oh, it has nothing to do with me, but everything to do with them.”

Continue to embody the you that bring out the authenticity in other people.

7. Learn to trust yourself

When you get to the point where you deeply trust yourself, you will have the confidence to be and do what it is you truly desire.

To form more trust with yourself, make the commitment to go after the goals you desire, show up for yourself, be the person you truly want to be, and honor and love yourself, even if it takes you baby steps to get there.

The world might try to steer you away from you intuition and your opinions, but I’m encouraging you to stand your ground and trust that you know what is best for you.

The more you learn to trust yourself, the better your confidence will be.

What kind of advice do you have to feel more confidence? Share your advice with us!

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Hi, I’m Carol! I created Here to be Inspired in order to teach YOU how to live up to your highest potential. Here, I will be talking about spirituality, self-development, law of attraction, and so much more!