The Reasons Why You Aren’t Actually Achieving Your Goals

When it comes to achieving goals, I feel like many people make the mistake of relying on motivation to get them there. However, not many people realize that there’s really no such thing as being motivated to do something.

If you ever sit down and listen to other people’s success stories, they will basically tell you the same thing.

They may call it “inspired action” or if it’s something you really want, you need to have “discipline”. You can’t just wait around to be motivated to go after your goals because chances are, if you don’t care enough to take the steps yourself, then no amount of motivation will get you there.

And I can attest to that!

I waited around for years to go after the things that I really wanted in life

I believe there’s deep reasons why people have issues reaching their goals and it goes far beneath “not having motivation”.

Generally it’s a subconscious issue and can be fixed by actively rewiring yourself to look at reaching your goals in a different perspective.

It’s not always going to be easy though.

But for now, I’m going to tell you some of the reasons of why you may have issues reaching your goals.

From here, I hope that they help you uncover more about yourself and show you where you need to start in order to take inspired action and manifest your dream reality!

Table of Contents:

1. Fear of failure

This is a common reason why people never start their goals.

People have this huge fear of failing and then assume that because they failed, that they aren’t capable of achieving their goal.

News flash: every successful person has failed multiple times!

Literally you can read and listen to people’s success stories and they’ll tell you that they have failed multiple times to get to where they are.

Including me, I have literally failed so many times at losing weight, starting businesses, getting higher paying jobs, and trying to reach other goals in other areas of my life.

Life isn’t supposed to be linear and that involves achieving your goals.

In fact, you should look at failures as blessings in disguise. If you didn’t fail at trying to do something, it just means you have to take a different direction of getting to that goal of yours, especially if you really want it.

Not facing failures is like taking a guess at something and being right on the first try.

And how much does that actually happen to you?

Now, sometimes failures can be a blessing because maybe there’s something better out there for you. I do believe that the Universe (or whatever Higher Power you believe in) always knows what is best for us.

So for example, if you tried to apply for a job that you really wanted and you didn’t get it, I do believe, in my opinion, that there is something out there more fulfilling to you. Maybe it’s higher paying, maybe you wouldn’t have liked your boss, or maybe you would have ended up hating that job later down the line.

When you start to look at failures from this perspective, you bounce back a lot quicker from rejections and failures. I do believe failures are what make you stronger and better as a person.

If you’re afraid of failing because of embarrassment or because you don’t want to look like a fool to the people around you, just know, that you deserve the credit for at least trying, instead of the people who complain about their life and don’t do anything to change it.

People who don’t even try aren’t any better than the people who put in the effort of trying.

So take your failures, learn from them, and adjust what you learn as needed.

This leads me to my next reasoning.

2. You’re afraid of what people will think

Another reason why people don’t go after their goals is because they are afraid of what people will think.

And some of you may say that you don’t care, but when someone puts their input on something that you are working towards, do you give them a reaction, like as if they triggered something in you?

Do you sit there and have second guesses about if you can do it or not?

Have people’s opinion swayed your thoughts on your goals?

Chances are, you do care about what people think. However, don’t be hard on yourself if you do care because society tries and program us to care about what our peers say about us.

Unfortunately, too many people fall victim to this programming.

Think of it this way.

At the end of your lifetime, when you are laying in your death bed, do you think you’ll be happy about living your life the way other people want you to?

Did you know that when people die, the main thing they think about is what they regret not doing than the mistakes they actually did?

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be able to look back at all the things I’ve tried doing than what I didn’t do because of people’s opinions about me.

And that reasoning is what makes me go after the things I want to do despite what people say about me.

Plus, it’s your life, not theirs.

You can do whatever the hell you want. If they’re triggered by it, it just means there’s something inside of them that wishes they could do the things you do.

At the end of the day, it has nothing to do with you.

In fact, think of this as you doing them a favor. You’re helping them realize things they didn’t know about themselves and helping them think of ways they can better themselves.

3. Uncertainty

One of the biggest fears as a human being is the unknown, also known as uncertainty.

Let’s be honest, we don’t like when we don’t know how something is going to turn out. We get fearful, frightened, and nervous when we aren’t sure of the future.

Honestly, there isn’t really an easy way that I can say this besides telling you to get uncomfortable with uncertainty.

We’re not really meant to know everything that’s going to happen in our life, but we can sure adapt to the changes that happen in our life.

This will require some mental power, which can be attained through practices such as meditation, breathing techniques, and other forms of mindfulness. 

Our Ego likes to assume that we know everything when really; we don’t know what is in store for us or even what’s going to happen for us tomorrow.

And that’s totally normal. We aren’t supposed to know everything.

We are here to experience life as is, including being uncertain with how our goals will turn out.

And if anything, instead of thinking about what if it doesn’t happen, think about what if it does happen.

What if you achieve that successful business of yours? What if you got the house of your dreams? What if you reached your body goals?

Our thoughts create our reality more than you think.

So the sooner you think about the possibilities of what your dream life can be, you’ll start to create the opportunities for yourself and built the momentum to take the inspired actions to achieve those dreams of yours. 

4. You aren’t sure where to start

Another reason why people don’t reach their goals is because they don’t know where to start (which is understandable).

I can relate to this since I don’t really have a lot of people around me who can relate to the goals I have in my life.

But, it’s not an excuse.

If you aren’t sure where to start with your goals, follow or surround yourself with people who achieved the goals you want to achieve.

One of the most important advices that successful people have said is, if you want to be rich, surround yourself with people who are rich.

If you want to be fit, surround yourself with people who value fitness and their health.

Now, I understand that this isn’t possible for everyone, but with the power of the Internet, it’s hard to make that excuse anymore.

So if you have fitness goals, follow people who are into fitness on Instagram or whatever social media you use and use them as inspiration. Maybe they post their workouts and you can try them out for yourself.

If you want to start a successful business, read about people who have started a successful business or take courses from people who have had success in what you want to pursue.

There are so many resources out there now that we have the power of the Internet.

There really is no excuse to tell yourself that you don’t know where to start when you have free resources on the Internet.

Just pick a place where to start and start from there. It’s better to start than to not start at all.

Take one step at a time. Don’t focus on everything at once because you’ll find yourself getting overwhelmed when it comes to reaching your goals.

Start one day at a time, because it will start to add up to weeks at a time and before you know it, you’ll be making better habits for yourself to reach your goals.

After all, they say it takes about a month for a habit to stick to you. So as long as you keep at it, you will get there eventually.

5. You don’t know your “why”

It’s important to ask yourself why you want to achieve these goals.

When you have a deeper meaning to why you want to achieve these goals, you are more than likely able to stick with them long-term.

So let’s say you want to get fit.

Well, why do you want to be fit?

Do you want to be fit because you want to be able to play with your grandkids or children even in your 50s? Your 60s? Maybe even your 80s?

Do you want to be around when your kids have kids of their own?

Do you want to be a good example for your kids?

Do you want to break the health cycle of your family (if they are known to have health problems)?

What is your why?

When you figure out why you are doing something, it’s easier for you to stick with these goals because you have a deeper meaning to why you want to achieve them.

The deeper they are, the better you stick with them.

Finding out your “why” will take some self-reflection. Take some time to reflect why you want the things you want in your life. Chances are, there are some deep rooted reasons why you want the things you want in your life, which are generally because of how you grew up.

Once you figure out your why, remember it, even if you have to journal it out and store it somewhere because that why can be a huge drive for why you want to achieve the goals you desire!

What steps will you start taking in order to achieve your goals? Comment down below!

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