Ever heard of the terms, “forgive and forget?”, especially when someone or people do you wrong.
I hate those f*cking terms.
Because honestly for me, it forces people to bury their emotions (especially trauma) to make others feel better about their wrongdoings. It doesn’t encourage healing on BOTH sides of the spectrum. It feels very one-sided and sometimes, it condones people’s wrongdoings and doesn’t make them learn the lessons at all.
Of course, there’s downsides to the people who were the victims, the bullied, whatever you want to call yourself. And this is coming from someone who’s been on both sides of the spectrum.
I hate calling myself a victim because I know I can take my power back and change myself.
So, in this blog post, I want talk about why you should practice forgiveness. And it’s not what you think, but let me clarify a few misconceptions before we get started.
This advice is all about forgiving yourself, whether you were the cause of the situations or not. Forgiveness DOES NOT mean you are condoning inappropriate behavior and wrongdoings and you DO NOT, under any moral obligations, have to keep a relationship with people who contribute toxicity in your life.
I don’t give a sh*t what other people say to you.
I will NEVER tell you that you must bring someone back into your life unless you choose to do so.
This is all about you. It is up to you whether you choose to bring people back into your life or not.
I strongly encourage you to use your intuition.
I also want to mention that you can forgive someone and still seek justice at the same time. That is your human right. So, if you are dealing with extreme situations (which, my heart goes out to you), please, please, please, seek your justice.
This post isn’t about forgetting your past, it’s about reframing it.
So, what do I mean by this?
Well, obviously I’m all about the deeper level perspectives, the esoteric/spiritual side of things, and not the surface level bullsh*t.
When we hold low vibrational emotions like anger, resentment, shame, etc. these types of energies hold up a lot of space in our energetic field (or I have also heard it called our heart space).
You see, I assume you are into manifestation if you’re on my website. We probably know the term, “attract, don’t chase” meaning that you want to be a magnet to the desires you want.
Obviously, if you’re a dirty magnet, you’re not going to be able to attract very nice things, right? Of course not, you’re just going to attract more sh*t.
Forgiveness can help clear up your internal magnet (or energetic field) so that you can prepare yourself to attract the things you want.
Seriously, may the force be with you.
If you’re someone who is caught up in a lot of anger, resentment, or shame, these types of energies can actually drain you energetically, spirituality (and mentally and physically, but I’ll talk about that in the next part).
This life force energy that you have could be used to manifest your desires, but instead, you’re fueling your energy from the past. And news flash, this can actually recreate your past into your current reality.
And I don’t think you want to keep repeating the same situations over and over again.
Think back at times you were dealing with the same sh*t, but through different people or situations.
Find yourself in relationships where there’s a lot of gaslighting?
Maybe every job you take up, you find yourself bullied by your coworkers.
Are you running into narcissism constantly throughout your friendships? Relationships? Family members?
These can be good indicators that you have some forgiveness work to do in those areas of your life. Keep an eye out on patterns that you see in your life and when you find out the pattern, take some time to practice forgiveness.
If you know anything about the Universal Laws, this pertains to The Law of Mirrors (Correspondence), where we attract certain patterns because of what is going on internally.
Not only can forgiveness improve your spiritual well-being, but it can also improve your mental and physical well-being. It’s no wonder that when we let go of the things that are weighing us down, we have more energy and that energy can be used for other purposes in our life: creating our dream life as well as healing our mind and body.
You’ve probably been in an argument with someone where someone apologizes to you (or vice versa), you probably can feel the weight off your shoulders, right?
That’s heavy energy being lifted off your shoulders.
A lot of people aren’t really aware of how much anger and resentment can actually hurt your body and unfortunately, instead of getting to the root of the problem, people generally try to cover it up with drugs, alcohol, pills, you know, other distractions.
This really does so much harm than good. It doesn’t make the problem go away and you are only manifesting disease for yourself.
That’s why it’s called dis-ease (a feeling of uneasiness).
Also, I don’t know about you, but in my personal life, I have been able to witness very angry and resentful people manifest illness for themselves and I can’t imagine what goes on mentally. That honestly sounds tiring to always be angry and upset and constantly thinking about the past.
It’s like drinking your own poison and then expecting the other person to die.
You’re really not doing yourself any favors.
Yes, this is an obvious one, but still hear me out.
Your past doesn’t dictate you as a person. You are not defined as someone who is x, y, z unless you allow your past to consume you.
People get so caught up in the past, something that literally cannot be changed. I have had the interesting privilege (as well as experienced it for myself) to see how holding anger, resentment, and shame binds you.
I mean, think about it.
Have these feelings prevented you from going after your dream career?
Has it manifested itself into your relationships?
Has it constantly triggered you whenever you think about something that happened to you?
It feels like you chained yourself to the past. So how are you supposed to make any room for the future if you keep defining yourself from the past?
It is completely understandable if it takes you time.
Sometimes it can take you years, but the most important thing to remember out of this, is that you accept that the past cannot be changed, so why bother? The more you do forgiveness work, the more it compounds over time.
Thus, helping you shed layers and leading you to your freedom.
So set yourself freeee baby!
Remember when I said in the first point how forgiveness clears up your internal energetic aura?
Once you clear yourself up internally, your speed up your manifestations.
Don’t be surprised if your manifestations come to you even faster! If you really need a bigger reason to practice forgiveness, know that the manifestations that you desire and have been waiting for can actually come to you faster.
I think this is especially true if you have some kind of resentment towards a particular manifestation that you are having struggles in, such as in relationships, bad financial decisions, poor, health, whatever the case may be.
So, practicing forgiveness could actually be the missing key to why you might not be receiving specific manifestations.
Is there anyone or anything you need to practice forgiveness? Feel free to comment down below (or even message me if it feels too personal! We’re all here to support one another!)
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