Look, we’ve ALL been offended by someone or something going on in our lives.
And the thing that many of us don’t see is that, things offend us for a reason. From learning some kind of lesson out of it or reflecting upon what this situation means about us.
I know, I know…
You may have read that and got offended by what I said, but here’s the thing that I always teach and preach: we are all in charge of taking full radical and responsibility for ourselves.
No matter how your past was, how your parents treated you, or what you had to go through in life, we are still able to have the power and choice to heal and grow from our experiences.
So, let me share the mindset shifts of how to stop taking things personally and how you can avoid any kind of rage baiting on Tiktok or an apology post on Instagram for lashing out.
Humor can be your best f*cking friend if you do this correctly.
Back when I was in therapy, this was one of the advices that my therapist had shared with me and honestly, it works like a charm if you love humor just as much as I do.
Finding the humor in crappy situations is a great mindset hack to take you out of that flight or fight mentality, but, it only works if you can truly put the emotion behind the humor in sh*tty situations.
I say this because I have seen plenty of situations where people will laugh and claim something or someone is a joke, yet, will later still be really p*ssed about the situation for years on end, even though they “claimed” that they aren’t offended.
Or if you can’t get behind truly seeing the humor behind sh*t and laughing about it, this mindset tip might be difficult for you to grasp, because it does take a very free-minded, laid-back person to practice this hack.
Therefore, if you are very chill when it comes to taking things personally or you aren’t someone that blows up when offended, you might be able to take on this mindset shift for yourself!
So, you may have heard this said plenty of times that things in life, people, and circumstances happen for a reason, no matter how crappy it was for us.
In fact, Source’s truth (aka another world for Universe) states that there is no such thing as right or wrong. In Source’s eyes, everything is perfection.
Now, I’m not religious by any means, so I don’t know what other religions say, but with spirituality, everything is planned out before we reincarnate into this world.
That means, we have made agreements with our Higher Selves and Source that we want to have certain experiences while we are living on this planet Earth. This also means that everything that happens to us is perfect and exactly how it should play out.
The problem that people can run into is that they don’t find the perfection of why something happened to them and fall into victim mode and unfortunately, being a victim won’t get you very far in life.
Therefore, learning the perfectionism in a situation will actually allow you on a subconscious level to find the beauty and grace in what you went through.
For example, if I was never bullied about taking a different career path and was instead, held up on a pedestal for doing the bare minimum, I wouldn’t be living such a free and abundant life to this day.
I wouldn’t have taken all the certificates and courses that have changed my life and I probably would have been very complacent throughout my life, which wouldn’t help me grow into my highest potential.
Therefore, me finding the perfection in why that had to happen to me has shown me that it was the best thing for my growth in my soul pull and financials.
So, I highly encourage that no matter what you are going through in life, find the reasons why it was absolutely perfect that something happened FOR you.
Here’s the thing when it comes to people offending us and us taking it personal: we ALL have villain in our life.
That means, there are certain people that reincarnate with us into our life for us to uplevel and grow. We make literal soul contracts with certain people in our life that they are going to put us through some sort of turmoil for us to grow and reach our highest potential.
For example, if you had a very traumatic childhood with a traumatic parent or both parents traumatizing you, they would be the villains in your life that are there to help you better you on a soul level.
And I know that’s a hard pill to swallow, because many people fall into victim mode and blame their parents for how they are to this day.
But again, we are here to take FULL radical responsibility for ourselves.
Realize that the people in your life are sacrificing THEIR lifetime in order for you to uplevel on a soul level.
Because here’s the thing, there are MANY souls here who are just here to be human and learn the ways of being a human and then there are fewer souls that are truly healers and are here to make a difference in this world.
Therefore, in order for there to be more lightworkers, healers, etc. we need villains to make us even stronger and help us awaken our abilities.
I mean, think of a hero and how the villain motivates the hero to become stronger.
If it weren’t for the villain, the hero wouldn’t be where they are in life.
So just know, that when it comes to people offending you, don’t take it personal because they love you SO much that they are willing to sacrifice their life on this planet to play a role that benefits your life the most!
And I know I’ve said this millions of times, but I still love this mindset hack because it reminds me of being in an RPG game.
Instead of taking sh*t personal, find the lessons out of it, because those lessons are like points that help your stat chart or attribute points.
The more lessons you learn, the more your skillsets increase and you will be able to take on bigger and better things in your life.
That also means you’ll be a lot more resilient to bigger challenges, getting on a whole new level in life, and having better quality stuff in your life.
So, try to how the people or circumstances are improving your stat chart and contributing to attribute points for you to have better strength, high intelligence, and more spiritual power.
This can also make living life a lot more fun than you realize!
How do you usually react when people get under your skin? Share in the comment section below!
